Narada Bhakti Sutras - Day 11 (Part 1)

The Six Distortions Of Love


• Love has six distortions:
• Expectation (can manifests in other forms like lust, desire)
• Anger
• Greed
• Arrogance
• Jealousy
• Pride
• In any relation you will see that these things.  You will even find these in kids. This is in nature.
• The habit to hold on to something and to get angry when you lose that is quite natural.
• Human life is caught up in these six distortion. And even if anyone of these come in life, you feel as if everything is lost.  Love is lost.
• In pride you lose many opportunities; a humble person gets many opportunities.
• Pride brings misery to the life. Jealousy makes us miserable. Anger boils you body.
• All these distortions are due to love. If there is no love, there won't be any distortion. But if there is no love, there won't be anything.
• So how to deal with these distortions of love?
• Narda says: Since devotee offers all the actions to divine offer all imperfections also to divine
• If you want to desire, desire for higher. If you want have lust, have lust for knowledge. Take pride in being devotee and in being humble. You want to be jealous in being generous. Have competition for being jealous. Direct all these distortions if and when they come to the divine because if you direct them to some person they bounce back at you. Astrology is one thing where you can direct your anger to the sun, to the moon, to the cosmos.
• There is not action that is perfect. Every action has got some imperfection and if you pick on to imperfection there is no end to it. You will move from the misery to misery.
• Actions can not be perfect but actor can be perfect. How can be an actor perfect - when he directs all his distortions to the divine.
• What is perfection - when you are calm, serene, blissful.
• Transcending the three types of love, you reach the divine love.
• There are two ways to express the divine love:
• Master servant relationship: there is respect, there is some distance
• Companionship: there is love, no distance
• When there is both love and respect relation lasts longer.
• The love that blossom beyond three gunas that is so complete because it has respect (of master servant) and love (companionship).
• Remember that you are servant of divine. You are here to carry his message. And you are his beloved.
• Share everything with divine. Anyway there is nothing different from the divine. Sharing is dynamism of love. Sharing is love in action.
• A devotee rejoices in being with himself. When you have found love in yourself you don't feel lonely, you don’t look for partners. Not that you dislike partners; but if you are together you are there to share something.
• Boredom simply mean you can not rejoice your company and if you can't rejoice your own company, remember no body can rejoice your company. And when you are fountain of joy, you radiate it and everybody will love your company.
• The existence is ocean of joy, you be the river that joins the ocean.
• Devotion is your nature. You don't have to cultivate it. It is already there. You have to simply recognize that it is there.
• You can not do anything to invoke love in yourself. It is already there, relax.
• Some thing you do by doing and some things you do by not doing and love is that (of later type).
• Meditation is spontaneous happening; when you are at ease with self, meditation itself happens. You need not to go to forest to do this. Wherever you are just be in core, be in touch with that center.